My math’s teacher often used to say "I can forgive but I can't forget". This line used to fascinate me because it had the softness of forgiveness and hardness of an unforgettable hurt. So, used to forgive anyone who hurt me but I never forget it. Later, I realized that by not forgetting, I am actually not forgiving but indebting the person with the false fact that: I forgive you. Saying that ‘I can forgive but not forget’ is just another way of saying ‘I won’t forgive’.
Resentment and revenge are evils, not for the one whom the other is against, but for the one who holds these unworthy emotions. They eat your soul like termites. They kill your peace of mind and never let you be free from your self created false self called ego. How can a wound on a false object be real? No one can hurt you, only you hurt yourself by keeping the pain close to yourself deliberately. Only you can hurt yourself by believing that the ego which got hurt is real.
Forgiveness is a virtue, virtue of a great person who lives freely. To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you. If you forgive but remember that you forgave, your ego still feeds on the fact that you forgave, you are still not free. To be truly free, you have to forgive and forget.
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To forgive and forget is not an easy task. Only The one who suffers the pain can understand how it feels. Even if we forgive, it's very hard to forget the pain which was caused.
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