I told her, "Because you don't love him, you are possessive about him".
A butterfly flying around, sitting on the flowers is certainly more beautiful than one in hand, about to die in the clutches. A desire to possess someone masked by the name of 'love' soon kills the life of the one who is possessed. Freedom is the most basic need of a person, whether one realizes this or not, and if it is taken, the person dies, not physically but emotionally and spiritually.
I am sure that love is not death, it is something higher than that. I am sure love is not possessiveness, it is a surrender. A surrender which gives the other the freedom to fly high. Two birds flying together not by bondage but by togetherness, connected by an invisible golden thread which can extend itself so that even by separation they are together.
Possessiveness and love might look the same but they are not. They are opposites. Possessiveness is the antagonist of love because love says, "I surrender to you. I have fallen in love because my ego has fallen" while possessiveness says, "I have got you now. I won't leave you, you won't leave me. I will keep you in my cage. If you try to go, I'll snatch you." Possessiveness comes from desire, a desire to own a person like a thing. Love might also come from desire, but this desire is the desire directed to the other not to the self, it's selfless.
It is the same moon which inspires poets and lovers, and it is the same moon which angers the silence of the sea.
7 comments:
really good...and absolutely true..
really awesome.....there is such a thin line between possessiveness n love....people really need to understand the difference...!! very well written friend...hats off to you!!!
@Ritika: There is no THIN LINE between love and possessiveness. They are opposites.
i meant in the understanding of both....
@Ritika: Now you are getting it.. good ;)
Wow! What an amazing article. It answers a lot of questions. Thanks for writing this and sharing this .I echo the sentiment above that you are a fantastic writer , so keep posting.
wow..so true..i know this thing really well..and you are right, love and possessiveness are opposites.. if you are possessive about someone, it means you are insecure, and where there are insecurities,love cannot blossom...
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