Don't fuck fear...

Fear scares the shit out of me! Paradox, it is. I am most afraid of being afraid. Fear is the biggest enemy of oneself. Just imagine, if Edison would have been afraid of trying to make light bulb after failing 999 times, would there be light? Just imagine, if Copernicus, Galileo and Kepler would have been scared of revealing the truths about the universe, would there be the truth? Just imagine, if I would have been scared of relationships after failing once, would I have had so much fun with so many? (To find the right one, you have to have fun with all the wrong ones)

People spend all their lives afraid to do things that they always wanted to. Someone might be scared to try out the outfit he desires to wear, scared of what society might think. Someone might be scared to marry the one he/she loves, scared of what parents might think. Someone might be scared to allow his child to ride, scared of his child falling. Shall we stop walking for the fear of falling? If not, then why you are so scared of doing things that might shape your life or give a new direction to your life?

Whatever excuse you give to yourself for being fearful, in the end you lose. You lose time, you lose life, and you lose youth. Funny it might sound but the liner that I believe in so much is: “JO DARR GAYA, SAMJHO MARR GAYA”.

You don’t have to fight your fears. Fear is something that you create. By fighting, you prove its existence to yourself. Just face it and it will fall. Face it with actions. Action cures fear. When I was a child, I was dead scared of roaches. My father made me kill one each time I spot it. And now, I am no more scared of them. I was scared of public speaking when I was in 1st year of my college. To face my fear, I took part in a debate. I was embarrassed on stage, I turned red, my legs shivered. Somehow, I completed it. Next time, I took part in elocution. It wasn’t as bad as the debate. And since then, I am not scared of public speaking. Action cured my fear. I faced it. Fear is like darkness, you cannot dispel the darkness by pushing out the darkness from the room. But you can surely bring the light in. You cannot remove any fear by fighting it. But you can bring the action in.

I’ll tell you about my biggest fear, ex-fear i mean. Due to childhood conditioning, I was scared of talking girls. Although, my childhood was spent among girls only but as I grew up, I was conditioned at home that girls aren’t good. They distract you. They are dangerous! Oh my god! Stay away from them! If I was spot talking to a girl on phone, I was screwed. I got so scared of them that if a girl touched me, I used to shiver, turn red. I could never talk to any girl without stammering. If I had to take any favor from a girl, I used to delegate it to my male friend (I didn’t have any female friend then, for obvious reasons). One day, it dawned to me, ‘why am I so scared? I have to overcome it. I have to remove my fear.’ Then at that very moment, I called up Reliance customer care to talk to the female executive of Reliance customer care with an excuse that I cannot send messages. I stammered for a while but the politeness of her made me comfortable. Next task was to chat online with girls of my class. I did it, successfully. Next task was talking to them on phone. Slowly, steadily, I kept on increasing the intensity of the tasks. And the result is? (You must be knowing the answer if you have read my previous posts)

So what I want to say is, don’t fuck with fear. Just play around with it. It will fall like a mirage because fear doesn’t exist; it’s just created as an illusion.